October Mama of the Month!
Hey there, mamas! First off, if you're reading this, then I'd like to take a second to appreciate you. Motherhood is hard, period, but you're doing it! As a part of this blog we would like to feature one mama every month who inspires us. We believe that it is important to celebrate others - and ourselves. We can learn so much from one another! Each mama has her own unique story, with up's and down's, trials and tribulations, and we just want to let you know that we hear you, we see you, and we're here for you.
As part of this monthly interview we will be asking mamas a series of questions - usually the same ones, but you never know - we might throw in some new ones from time to time.
October Mama of the Month
Meet October's Mama of the Month, Destanie Dennis! We met on Instagram, and she immediately caught our attention with her wonderfully inspiring, authentic and open Instagram account. So here's our interview with her:
What's the biggest struggle that you have overcome and how did you overcome it?
The biggest struggle I have overcome was recovering postpartum. I had developed an umbilical hernia during pregnancy. So I was unable to do a lot of core workouts and strenuous exercise after I had my son. And because I was breastfeeding I couldn't fall back on any extreme diets. I had to change the way I looked at diet and exercise. I had always just done these extreme quick fixes. Like a really challenging boot camp.
Or an extremely restrictive diet. But that wasn't an option anymore, I couldn't force my way to recovery. I had to slow down and make small incremental changes over a longer period time. I went to a physical therapist and I started choosing healthier food options. I had to learn how to be patient with myself and let my body heal at it's own pace.
Now a year later, I am able to workout with little to no restrictions and I am 5 pounds away from my pre-baby weight.
What are some small changes that you have made in your life that have positively impacted yours and your family's life?
Recently I have started waking up at 5am and I have developed a morning routine that I follow every day. This has been a gamechanger for us. It gives me 3 hours to plan my day, workout, read, do chores around the house etc... It also gives me some time to myself before the rest of the house wakes up. In the past I would sleep as long as I possibly could and then spend the rest of the day feeling hurried and like I playing catch up. I was more irritable and on edge with my family, because I felt like I never had enough time in the day. Having that time to reflect and fill my own cup before tending to the day and to my family has helped me to show up more collected and ready to take on whatever comes my way. And my husband and son have a happier and much more pleasant wife and momma.
If you had just one piece of advice that you could offer to a woman who is struggling right now, what would it be?
Don't give up... there have been many times in my life that things looked very bleak. Times when I felt trapped and couldn't see any way out. But things have a way of working themselves out. Some of my greatest blessings have come out of my most painful circumstances. There is always more going on than meets the eye. The only way you can truly fail is to quit trying.
What's your number one go-to when you're needing to feel empowered or a confidence boost?
I would say the number one thing that I go to when I need a confidence boost or to feel empowered is to focus on someone other than myself. I know it seems counterintuitive, but it is easy to feel sorry for yourself if your focus is on you and your problems.
I have found that when I am the most troubled the best thing I can do is get my focus off of my own circumstances and to start thinking about the other people in my life. Whether they be friends, coworkers, family, or even someone you don't know. Just thinking of another person and looking for ways that you can be a help to them. By encouraging them, listening to them vent, helping them with a project, whatever they may need. Sometimes its as easy as smiling at someone who is obviously having a hard time.
Inspiring, right?! She has so much great insight and information here that I know I've definitely learned something. I know it'll be hard, but I'm going to try to focus more on helping others when I'm feeling troubled.
Thank you so much Destanie! You inspire us, and I'm looking forward to watching you and your family blossom! You can follow her on Instagram here. And make sure to subscribe to our email list to get notified of next month's Mama of the Month, as well as for other juicy tidbits such as sneak peaks, special discounts, and insider news!
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